In the process of developing AFT, I learned why emotional problems occur. Each person is born with a particular temperament. Our temperament is something we inherit, not develop. Our temperament pushes us in specific directions.
Emotional problems begin with an event that is linked to our temperament. While there may be many similar events that occur, the first is the most important. It often must be found to get rid of the problem permanently. Most people do not know what event started their problem. If you do not know when your emotional problem began, it is almost impossible to free yourself from it forever. Most people who have PTSD, grief, and depression are aware of the event when their problem began. They know what happened. They focus on it without the need for a therapist’s guidance. This awareness allows me to help them without ever meeting them.
The Mind is a collection of energetic processes that are driven and organized by emotions. If the feelings are too intense, they can cause permanent and disabling shifts in our consciousness. Let me explain more.
The Mind is an infinitely, complex energetic processor of data. Like a computer, it can run any software loaded into it. All Minds have the same basic computer, a brain. We only differ in the software we have available to process information. In its complexity, the Mind does many things. It simultaneously categorizes, prioritizes, contextualizes. It interprets information. It does this while retrieving and matching memories. All of this happens within the context of animal instincts and emotions. The result of the Mind is one’s experience of life, the “theater” of the Mind.
The complexity of the Mind adds to the difficulty in determining the cause or reason for an upset. Our judgments and beliefs limit the specific thoughts that arise in our Mind. In effect, the experience of various emotions leads to attracting related thoughts. It increases the amplitude of the underlying feelings and frames our awareness. The process is compounded by the Minds tendency to project its views and “truth” on to others. Every life perspective has its self-verifying truth. Each perspective has its predefined capacity for perception and comprehension.
All Minds use the same energetic processes to create personal reality. No thought, feeling, reaction, or experience we have arises outside of an energy field. It provides continuity of the personality. We remember the past and use it to understand our current situation. We use it to anticipate the future. We Judge both people and things as better or worse. Another process involved is projection, a fundamental aspect of the developing consciousness of the child. Children only know what is in their Minds. They believe that others think and experience the same thing that they do. For the child, the world is self-reflective. That everyone feels or should feel the same way they do (everyone is like me!) is a childish perspective, but one that underlies much of human perception and reactions. It is a problem of poorly developed boundaries. Unclear delineations of what the other person knows and feels and what you know and feel.
To summarize, all of our problems have reasons or causes. As a matter of simple fact, nothing occurs in the Mind without a reason or cause. The Mind is like a TV. Without any stations to tune into, nothing happens. Tune it in, and all kinds of things can happen. Certain life events set up “preset stations” in our Mind’s TV. To stop watching to a preset station, you must know when the station became set in the Mind. You find the cause(s) and or reason(s) behind any emotional thought or reaction on which you are working. Without disconnecting or eliminating the cause(s) and reason(s) behind the problems, they only return.